Embracing Uniqueness

Posted by on Feb 19, 2012 in Random Thoughts | 4 Comments

Hubby and I have started to casually look for our next home – mainly refining and clarifying our likes and dislikes. Do we want to live in a new neighborhood or an established neighborhood? Do we want to live on the southside of town or the west side of town. So many questions to be decided. We’ve started doing subdivision drive bys. If we’re out riding around and see a subdivision that looks interesting, we’ll drive though it for a quick assessment and look up available homes and prices when we get home. We’ve done this enough that all of them are starting to look alike with very little to differentiate one subdivision from another. There’s a cookie cutter sameness in new subdivions that makes old homes with character, infinitely more attractive to me. I want our home to have unique character and not look exactly like 25 other homes in the neighborhood.


My dream home - an arts and craft style bungalow from the turn of the century.


Blogging should be like that. My little corner of the interweb should be been unique. It should have been the place where I share my true personality and the things that inspire me so we can get to know each other. That hasn’t happened because of a fear of being different. When I started blogging I really hadn’t intended it write a recipe factory. I love cooking but there were lots of other things to talk about. As I got into it more, I found more really cool food blogs and started self editing based on what I was seeing or not seeing. Post ideas would be rejected if I couldn’t remember seeing something similar on other food blogs. If no one else is talking about it must not be interesting right? I had subconsciously rejected uniqueness in favor of following the herd and fitting in with the crowd. The passion I felt for my blog has waned under the pressure of fitting into that cookie cutter.

Now I’m at a blogging cross roads. Do I continue on the path I’m on currently and split my non food related musings onto a personal blog? Do I incorporate my other interests into this blog and completely deviate from what “a Cook at Heart” implies? Do I have time to realistically maintain two blogs? It’s tricky and I’ve been giving it ALOT of thought and I’m still undecided.

What do you think? Would you rather a food blog stick to food or do you like to see diverse topics? Let me know what you think.


  1. Joyce Jackson
    February 23, 2012

    I love the recipes but also love reading about those behind the recipes. This story is interesting 1) because I love to look at houses, too and do what you and your hubby do – ride around and look at different houses, 2) Feels like I have another friend in this big city outside of my work place, and 3) I love to read about all the cool things others are doing, places they’re going, movies they’ve seen, books….you get the picture.

  2. angela@spinachtiger
    February 26, 2012

    Follow your heart. Don’t be like everyone else. Just think about what you have to offer and enjoy it. I am in Nashville area too and the tendency here in decorating has always been to be exactly like everyone else. I find that boring. You are your unique self, and people will find you fun for just being you.

    • jfoster
      February 27, 2012

      Thanks Angela. I agree.

  3. Lannae
    March 4, 2012

    It is your blog, do as you want with it! It is about you!


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